January 29, 2015

Why I'll never ask when you plan to have a baby......

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(photo by Miranda Batchelder Photography...from my pregnancy with Hudson)

So, I'm just going to share something that's been on my heart a lot lately. 

It took us several months of trying to get pregnant. Now, I haven't had problems with infertility, or miscarriages. I've never lost a baby. But I know that several of you have struggled with fertility issues and I cannot even begin to fathom what that must feel like. I know I am incredibly blessed to be pregnant with our second child. I know that trying for months is just a drop in the bucket compared to what many of you have gone through. But when you want a baby, and you have to wait, it's hard. 

Over the past year I've decided I will never ask another woman when she plans to have a baby. Ever.

I have friends who just start to "talk about" having a baby and they get pregnant. I have friends who have struggled for years. I have friends who've lost multiple babies. And, it's just hard, no matter your struggle. For us, it took several months of trying to get pregnant with this baby....and it took almost that long to get pregnant with Hudson too, but the second time around it was much harder for me emotionally. Because I knew what I was missing out on. Each month that passed put me farther and farther away from a baby. And it just plain sucked. 

 photo Julie_24.jpgDuring that time of waiting, we had a lot of people ask us when we were going to have another baby. At first it didn't bug me, but when the questions kept coming I sort of shut down. I know that everyone had the very best of intentions, but it was hard. When someone says to you "just have another baby already!" and you are trying desperately to make that happen, it just knocks you down. 

When you can't even tell someone you were sick without them giving you that "by sick you mean pregnant, right?" look, it stinks. 

I came to really appreciate the people who agreed not to ask...and knew that I would tell them as soon as I could. Namely, my mom and best friend. And that's the approach I'm taking with everyone I know. Unless someone confides in me and wants to talk about it (which bring it on, I'm always willing to talk babies and will support anyone 100%!) I won't ever bring the subject up. I won't ask you when you plan on having a baby. It's really none of my business how many children (and when) you have them. 

So if you are struggling with infertility, I just want you to know that I am here for you. I understand maybe just the tiniest bit how you might be feeling. I know it's not the same, but I know it must be hard. If you are thinking about starting a family, but are scared, I'm here for you too. 





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January 28, 2015

The Breastfeeding Diaries: Calling All Moms!

I promise to be back next week with more of your amazing breastfeeding stories. If you are interested in sharing your story, please email me at thegirlintheredshoes @ gmail. 

I'm looking for ANY type of breastfeeding journey. 

Breastfeeding was easy for you? I want to hear about it.

Breastfeeding didn't go how you planned? Tell me.

Breastfeeding just didn't work out? I want to share your story.

There is something to be learned from all of your stories....and you never know who you may help by sharing your experience. 

Remember....we're all in this together. Thank you so much for having the courage to share your journey with us! I can't wait to hear from you!


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January 26, 2015

Pillow Fort Fun and Popcorn Munchie Snack Mix

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Hudson's favorite snack lately has been popcorn! Or "corn" as he calls it! The other day we decided to use our teepee and build a fort and munch on some popcorn.....my little camper had the best time!

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He's too focused on eating that big ol' bowl of Pop Secret popcorn to smile for mommy. 
 
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We also decided to use our popcorn to make our new favorite treat...popcorn munchie snack mix! You can basically use whatever you have on hand to make this mix. We used Pop Secret popcorn, pretzel sticks, chex cereal, and m&ms.

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This is basically the easiest recipe ever. Combine all of your snack mix ingredients on some wax paper and then drizzle white chocolate on top.

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My assistant snuck a few pieces while I was melting the chocolate. Little stinker.

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Then, just let everything harden for 20 minutes or so....and enjoy! Super easy and sooooo yummy.

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Then, I divided out some snack mix in to mason jars and decorated them with a little ribbon. 

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I plan on making these again to give to Hudson's teachers as Valentine's day gifts! Aren't they cute? We snacked on this mix all weekend and it was so good!

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 Visit Pop Secret for a $1 off coupon and a customizable flag to claim your pillow fort! Then, submit photos of your pillow forts to the Pop Secret Facebook page using hashtag #PopSecretForts and you could be eligible to receive a host of mystery prizes and rewards (while supplies last). 

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Popping the perfect bowl of Pop Secret popcorn was a delicious addition to our fort camp-out and perfect base for our yummy recipe!

Today's post is sponsored by Pop Secret but our love for popcorn and fort making is all our own!






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January 23, 2015

Oh Hey Friday

Finally Friday!!!!! 

{one} My sweet husband bought me a new Macbook Pro because I almost threw our old one out the window on several occasions....and I LOVE it. But can someone please come over and make all my apple devices talk to each other? Because....NOBODY UNDERSTANDS THE CLOUD. Name that movie. But for real...I totally don't get it. 

{two} My one and only Valentine's Day decoration. And it will probably be gone by this weekend...because I can't resist the candy hearts.

{three} I'm getting my hair cut today and I can't wait! I've had to cancel a few appointments due to sickness, morning sickness, and snow....so I'm way past due. I'm sure an instagram photo will be in the works later today!

{four} I went to Target last night by myself (heaven!) and a ton of the maternity stuff was 50% off, plus and additional 20% off with cartwheel app. The selection was pretty picked over but I found a few cute sweaters. I'm all about stripes during pregnancy!


{five} You all know I'm a big fan of breastfeeding....but I'm an even bigger fan of moms. Everyone has to do what's best for them and their baby, no matter what that may be. We are all fighting a hard battle. This video is spot on. 

Happy weekend my friends!

And now the link ups....


Oh Hey Friday with September Farm and The Farmer's Wife!

Momfessionals





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January 22, 2015

Poncho Love and Keeping My Colors Bright

 Can I please wear a poncho every day? It's like wearing a blanket but it's still socially acceptable. You can find my poncho here. It's been so dark and gloomy lately so it was hard to capture a photo of it...but it's black with Marsala colored stripes. Marsala is Pantone's color of the year for 2015! 

Isn't it pretty? I need to find a nail polish that is Marsala....if you know of a good one let me know!

 I want to wear this color all day, every day. 

At first I was nervous about washing a delicate, dark colored item. I recently discovered Clorox® Darks & Denim and I have to say I was impressed. It really lived up to the hipe and kept the colors of my poncho vibrant. 

Do you have trouble with your darks fading? Clorox® 2 Darks & Denim is formulated with 2 times the color boosting power and removes 4 times more stains than are removed with pre-treating, and won’t cause fading. Here are some great tips from Clorox!


Treating Tough Stains on Marsala and other dark-colored clothes:
  • For tough stains, like wine coffee and grass, be sure to pre-treat. First, remove the garment: do not treat clothing while wearing it.
  • Remove all loose dirt from the fabric and blot wet stains with a clean absorbent cloth.
  • Apply liquid Clorox® 2 Darks & Denim and rub it in.
  • Wait several minutes – don’t let it dry – then wash with like colors.


Got Specific Stains?

  • Got a tough deodorant stain? Apply liquid Clorox® 2 Darks & Denim directly to the deodorant stain and rub in. Wait 3-5 minutes (don't let it dry on the fabric), then wash immediately in the hottest water recommended on the care label with detergent and additional Clorox® 2 Darks & Denim based on your load size.
  • Spilled coffee during the commute? Rinse the stain from the back with cold water – it prevents it from sinking deeper into the fabric. When you’re home, pre-treat with Clorox® 2 Darks & Denim. Let the garment soak in cool water for a few minutes then launder with regular detergent on the hottest recommended water setting.Whether in this season’s hottest shade of Marsala or another amazing shade – lipstick can spell disaster for clothes. Some people swear by hairspray to prevent it from setting on the go. When you get home put a clean, dry cloth on the stain. Dab (don’t rub) the back of the stain with dish soap on a damp cloth. Be careful not to transfer the lipstick back onto the garment. Wash on the hottest recommended water setting with regular detergent and Clorox® 2 Darks & Denim.
  • It’s the holiday season, which means that while you’re getting festive, you may encounter a liquor or red wine spill. Before washing, pre-treat with Clorox® 2 Darks & Denim. Wash on the hottest recommended water setting with regular detergent and Clorox® 2 Darks & Denim.

How do I launder stained clothing?

  • For wine stains, launder on the hottest recommended water setting
  • For coffee stains, soak in cool water for a few minutes after pretreating. Then launder as usual on the hottest recommended water setting
  • For grass stains, launder on the hottest recommended water setting
  • Make sure the stain is gone before machine drying, as drying could cause the stain to further set

Thank you to Clorox for sponsoring today's post. All opinions are my own.



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